What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.
– Helen Keller, American disability rights advocate
I always wondered what love really meant. No one can really define it exactly now, can they? It means many things for many people.
I always thought it was an amalgamation of many emotions all rolled into one – happiness, desire, lust, need, respect, a solution for being alone, when it comes to romantic love. And then a whole host of other emotions and concepts such as responsibility, commitment, concern, future-proofing your life, pride, a sense of purpose when it came to children, parents, country and so on.
You can know exactly the definition of each of these singular words that come together to create love but love on its own seemed so difficult to grasp.
I guess that’s because I am a very precise person. I need precise terminology to understand something and the word ‘love’ escapes me most of the time. When I thought I loved someone, years later I realised it was not love, it was just the need of the moment, a space that got filled and I thought it had to be love. But can it be love if it does not remain that same love over years and becomes something else? If romantic love can evolve into friendly love, then what is the real definition of love?
Maybe we watch too much TV and movies to think that love is something you say to a lover. “I love you” and ta da! cupid lets an arrow rip and we live happily ever after, or at least until the magic wears off, which can be one year or twenty years.
Maybe love is more than all that? Maybe love is a universal feeling of loving all beings – people you know and don’t know, no matter what religion, race, colour or creed, and all animals, all sentient beings – loving them as we love ourselves and being happy in that one-ness of love, knowing that we are all connected in a beautiful way.
And that we are never alone – because we are all part of one infinite consciousness and that true love is loving ourselves and the macrocosm in which we are all a tiny part of.
Giving ourselves up to the love of everything – the trees, the wind, the bees, the birds, the cows, the pigs, every single human being, the world we live in, the sun that gives us light and warmth, the mountains, the skies. A love that encompasses all and does not seek to divide and become myopic in finite packets.
Maybe when we can love like that, we can solve a lot of the problems in the world.
We start living in a higher level of humanity and start caring compassionately for all life, and being grateful for all that we have and not being divided in constant fear mongering and fighting over differences in religion, skin colour, sexes, genders, nationalities, rich and poor definitions, money, politics, and just live as one united spirit in this great nurturing world of ours.
We need to first take mainstream media that tries to create disharmony to task and encourage governments to lead with heart and not individual greed.
At a time like this, when greed, envy, hate and chaos create constant division at every level of society, the only way we can win is through love.
Love done right and done genuinely has immense energy and power to change even the darkest of worlds. But we need to be united in that love. To see everyone as the same, and not different.
Many scientists have said, including the great Einstein and Tesla, that we are all merely energy vibrating at various levels of frequency. And since love is an energy that vibrates at the highest frequency due to its sheer lightness of joy, gratitude, happiness and compassion in comparison to the low base frequencies of fear, anger, hatred, anxiety and depression – we can actually physically lift the world to being a better place by changing the frequencies we feel all around us.
Through a universal love. And then watch every aspect of all your relationships improve tremendously.
It’s easier said than done, I can almost hear you say as you read this. True. But there is first awareness to a problem and a solution to it. And then there is the power of one person to make that change. The butterfly effect. And if you believe that you could love universally and show it through your thoughts, actions and kindness, those around you will follow. And little by little a critical mass of people in your community follow suit and that spills over to more and more people and then the change happens in a grander scale, and one day, we will be able to make this world a truly amazing, magical place to live in.
The views expressed here are those of the columnist and do not necessarily represent the views of New Sarawak Tribune. Feedback can reach the writer at firstname.lastname@example.org